Mistakes are an undesirable consequence of the wrong actions, says Rubina Ratnakar. How we handle them, however, is what defines us as individuals and determines our level of personal development. We all handle mistakes differently after the fact. Some people get over them easily while others fixate on them. Dwelling on one’s mistakes limits the capacity for growth and may result in a bitter, defeated and perhaps even depressed individual. How then, does one get over his/her mistakes?
Whether it was your fault is irrelevant. The critical issue is that you blame yourself for the mistakes that were committed and you need to move past that. The very first step to healing and looking comfortably past your mistakes is to forgive yourself. Consider the fact that you cannot change the past and there is no point crying over spilled milk. What you need instead, is to change your life, thought process and such things, to avoid committing the same mistake. By forgiving yourself, you admit that you have no control over what happened and that you are okay with it.
Believe in yourself and in your ability
The worst thing about mistakes is how they affect us. We lose all sense of self-worth and victimize ourselves into believing that we are failures. Well, the truth couldn’t be further than that. Regardless of how dire the mistake was, you are still the same person as you were before. Granted, you might need to work harder and smarter but that doesn’t mean that you lost your skill, capabilities, and knowledge. All you have to do is focus on yourself and believe in your abilities. More importantly, believe that you have enough will power to get you back doing what you used to do, with greater zeal.
Don’t let your mistakes define you
You are not your mistakes. The fact that you made a mistake in the past does not mean that you are fated or cursed to commit mistakes. All it means is that something went wrong in the past. By not letting your mistakes define you, you don’t shed responsibility for the mistake but take it head on. You admit that you made a mistake but are not willing to let that mistake put you down forever.
For this to work, you must have a genuine desire to overcome your mistakes. Otherwise, you will be moving around the same circle. Remember that overcoming your mistakes is not the same as preventing them from happening again. But for you to move forward and not make the same mistakes, you first have to get over them. Everyone makes mistakes and you are no exception. You will make more mistakes in the future but that is how to know you are making progress.