In today’s modern society, it is hard to come by a true friend. In fact, the definition of a true friend is all confused and distorted. A true friend should be someone who sticks with you at all times, encourages, supports and loves you regardless of inconveniences and without expecting anything in return. Today, the friend model is a ‘scratch my back I’ll scratch yours’ system, which is all convoluted and wrecked, says Rubina Ratnakar. How then do you make a true friend in this dog-eat-dog society?
Become a true friend to others
You cannot expect to make a true friend if you are not one yourself. By virtue, you should ensure that you are a true friend to others, without expectation or regret. By being someone’s true friend, you might prompt that person to reciprocate. However, if you are too proud to take the first initiative, then you are undeserving of a true friend.
Be yourself and unapologetic
People ought to love you for what you stand for and whom you are. If you feel the need to change yourself just so someone can accept and form a friendship with you, then that person is clearly undeserving of your friendship. A true friend will not shame, tear you down or look down upon you for what you stand for or whom you are. Instead, a true friend will share in what you stand for and support you all through.
In today’s society, the number of people who want to express themselves far exceeds that of those who are willing to listen. Such a breakdown in communication certainly invites all the wrong kinds of friends. You should strive to become a listener, just as much as you expect your friends to listen to you. Hearing what someone has to say does not encompass the entire scope of being a good listener. Instead, you have to ensure you internalize what you hear and provide a meaningful contribution in return. This will formulate a deeper bond between you and your friends who will come to count on you and your opinions.
Ease into it
The pressure to make friends is too much and it can be damning. Instead of hurrying to make friends and ending up in the wrong friendships, you should take your time. Patiently evaluate someone and get to know him/her before you can agree to a friendship. That way, you can weed out those who want to be friends with you for their selfish needs.
Remember that to gain true friendship from someone, you have to offer just as much. In the end, the kind, friendly, supportive, patient and selfless approach is what will win you true friends so you should stick to it.